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Oct. Obituaries The Taos News C6 High impulsivity is prominent in loss Ask Golden Willow tion can allow you to make conscious decisions and have long-term healing. In this, your losses have a chance to be your guides for a life of serenity in the midst of difficult times. I wish you well on your journey to healing and until next time, take care. Golden Willow Retreat is a nonprofit organization focused on emotional healing.

Direct any questions to Ted Wiard, LPCC, CGC, founder of Golden Willow Retreat and Clinical Supervisor for TeamBuilders Counseling at (575) 776-2024 or GWRnewmex.com. reptilian brain which reacts quickly and sharply but does not care about ramifications or long-term effects and consequences. If you are an addict of any kind, this impulsivity can also lead to a higher chance of relapse (if in recovery) and a propensity to fall into self-medication through addictive behaviors. Even a person who is not an addict can fall into negative behaviors when substance abuse seems like the "easiest jump." Staying aware of your impulsive tendencies and avoiding the easy lean into the path of instant gratifica Society has taught us to avoid pain and provides many available escapes, including unhealthy behaviors and distractions that are all within easy reach. ence loss we feel pain within our psyche, our brain, our bodies and even our spiritual make up.

When this happens it is very easy to want to find some way to escape the pain. Society has taught us to avoid pain and provides many The Taos News has committed to implement a bi-weekly column to help educate our community about emotional healing through grief. You may write questions to Golden Willow Retreat and they will be answered privately to you and possibly as a future article for others. Please list a first name that grants permission for printing. Dear Ted: There have been many deaths within our family over the last couple of years and now my mother-in-law has been diagnosed with cancer.

As a family we are all trying to manage, cope and help each other as we walk through this next phase in our lives. In the midst of this my brother has started to drink more and more alcohol and says he can't stop. He says he thinks about Horace "Lacho" Gonzales Everything will be okay in the end. If it's not okay, it's not the end. Author Unknown V7e the family of Manuel Ortiz Sr.

wish to thank all those who joined us It for our father's, grandfathers and great-grandfathers rosary, mass of resurrection and meal at his home. We would like to Thank Father Adam Lee Ortega Ortiz, his great-nephew, Father Daniel Balizan and Deacon Romolo Arellano for celebrating his beautiful mass, the Hermanos for the praying such a beautiful rosary and the Hondo Choir for the wonderful music. To his grandsons and great-grandson for honoring their grandfather as Pall bears; his granddaughters for his Eulogy, doing the readings and for presenting the offertory during mass. Many Thanks to the National Guard and the Veterans of Foreign Wars for his Military Honors; our Father would be so proud that you sent him out with so many honors. To the Veterans Administration Health Care System for providing his entire medical needs with love, respect and dignity and to Zia Hospice for your compassionate care.

To the ladies who helped prepare and serve our fathers meal at his home, Thank You. To everyone who stopped by to visit him; called him and even asked for him, A Perhaps you sent a lovely card, or sat quietly in a chair. Perhaps you sent a floral, if so we saw it there. Perhaps you ii spoke the kindest words, as any friends could say. Perhaps you were not there at all, just thought of us that day.

What- ever you did to console our hearts, we thank you so much, Hib whatever the part. Special Thanks to Pastor Luis Madrid and Pastor Peter Martinez for the beautiful services. Thanks to nieces Karen Martinez and Susan Trujillo of Taos, NM. Christina Tigner, Karla Cordova of Pueblo, CO. Sisters Virginia Gonzales, and Petra Trujillo of Rociada, NM for the beautiful music they played and sang during services and at graveside.

Pastor Madrid, Pastor Martinez and all the singers helped us to fulfill "Lacho's" final wishes. Thanks to Weylen and Melissa Vigil from Weylen's Funeral Home for the good job they did with our loved one, and how great they treated us the family. We couldn't have asked for anything more. Special thanks goes to all the grandchildren: Patrick, Daniel, Tiffany, and Gloria Medina. Mercedes, Brittni, Carolina Gonzales for being your grandpas pallbearers.

Thanks to the Family Circle for the good food, and to all the people who provided us with food, drinks, etc. Thanks to LeroyMriero and his workers for opening and closing of the gravejTIHfcjare she provided prior to Judy. Extra Special TharigonxTjuayWaes Sanchez for being such a wonderful and loving caregiver to "Lacho" during the last 4 years of his life. Home Health Care and Hospice for their loving care. The family of Horace "Lacho" Gonzales Cherish the memories of that special loved one with a memorial ad in The Taos Thank You it brought him great joy that you were thinking of him.

For all of you who sent cards, sent emailinternet messages, called, visited andor brought food Thank You it was all greatly appreciated. To the Staff of Rivera Family Funeral Home Thank You for your professionalism and your compassion. Also to the police officers who escorted our Father, Grandfather and Great-Grandfather home it was greatly appreciated. To Glenda Pachoni his caregiver, you were dad's guardian angel. Most of all we would like to Thank God for blessing our Father Bring your typed or handwritten text photo to 226 Albright or email your text photo to classadstaosnews.com Deadline: Monday by noon.

with 102 years and blessing us with a great man. The Ortiz, Romero Reed Families The Taos News Call us today for more information, 575-758-2241 available escapes, including unhealthy behaviors and distractions that are all within easy reach. Most self-medicators and addictive tendencies are triggered by impulsivity in the form of anger, irritation, lashing out, dangerous actions, and other negative behaviors. It is as if our internal parent has taken a leave of absence and let the wild young teen within wreak havoc within our worlds. When emotions rise and there is emotional imbalance, the frontal lobe of your brain starts to shut down kind of like a dimmer on a light switch.

Your frontal lobe is where values, judgment, restraint and mindfulness reside so with the light switch dimming, impulsivity can increase. You are now operating from the limbic area or special friend, Wayne Torres, brothers and sisters, Fabie Trujillo, Socorro Trujillo, Prescilla Garcia (Pat), Ernie Trujillo (Irene), Leroy Trujillo (Joann), Dorothy Pacheco (Johnny), brothers and sisters in law, Fermin (Melly), Dolores, Josie, Louisa (Ron), Maggie, Alice, Sister Martha, Evelyn (Roy) and many other relatives and friends. Rosary was recited on September 30, 2012. Funeral mass was held on October 1, 2012. Both were held at Our Lady of Guadalupe Church.

Interment followed at the Los Cordovas Cemetery. Arrangements by Rivera Family Funeral Home. To share a memory, please visit our website at www.riverafuneralhome.com Marvin Louis Lopez, 68, of Chamisal passed away on September 29, 2012. He is preceded in death by his wife, Neomi Lopez and father, Louis Lopez. He is survived by his mother, Priscilla Lopez, children, Patrick Lopez, Timothy Lopez (Marilyn), Jessica Esquibel (Ronnie) and Joncy Lopez, grandchildren, Tyler Jade Lopez, Alexandra Lopez, Valerie Keller, Devyn Esquibel, Gavin Lopez, Trevor Lopez, Ashley Rosas and Shayna Esquibel.

He is also survived by brothers and sister, Sam and Larry Lopez and Yvonne Lopez and many other relatives and friends. Visitation and Prayer service was held on October 02, 2012. Funeral service was held on October 03, 2012. All services were held at the Presbyterian Church in Penasco. Arrangements by Rivera Family Funeral Home.

To share a memory, please visit our website at www.riverafuneralhome.com Mavis Michael Concha-Ortiz of Taos, infant daughter of Michael Concha-Ortiz and Jennifer Gonzales, passed away unexpectedly on September 23, 2012. She is preceded in death by her grandfather, Lupe Concha, great grandparents, Antonio and Ignacia Concha, Juan and Felicita Ortiz, Jose-Frank and Eusebia Gonzales and Jose F. Gonzales. She is survived by her parents, Michael and Jennifer, sisters, Alexandra Gonzales, Shania Concha-Ortiz, Autyana Concha-Ortiz, Sophia Concha-Ortiz, grandparents, Mary Ortiz, Felix and Libbie Gonzales, great grandmother, Beatrice Gonzales, Ted Wiard his mom and then just drinks. What is going on and why in the middle of a tough time does alcohol have to raise its ugly head? Thanks, Betty Dear Betty, Wow what a time you have had with loss.

Thank you for sharing and for reaching out and please know that both of these actions will help you and others to connect and heal. Usually when we experi- News. Audrey Ann Hightower of Richmond, Texas, went peacefully to be with her Heavenly Father on Monday September 17 2012 at her residence. Audrey was born on March 31, 1936 in Hartford, Connecticut to the late Esther and Carl Johnson of Brandon, Vermont. Audrey received her License of Vocational Nursing in the early 1970's and has worked as a nurse for over 40 years.

Audrey had a passion for nursing and worked in numerous hospitals and hospice care centers in Connecticut, Texas, New Mexico and New York. She truly enjoyed giving loving care to the many patients she took care of over the years. Audrey had a special love for her pets, especially her dog "Bear" who is missing her very much. He has been a loyal and loving companion to her for nearly 14 years. Having raised her children in Connecticut, she moved to Texas then to Taos, New Mexico, New York and eventually back to Texas to be cared for by family Audrey's heart was always in Taos, she loved it there.

She made many close friends and loved the vast beauty and slower pace of Taos life. Audrey was a loving mother, grandmother, sister and wonderful friend. She is survived by five daughters, Sharon Soucy Carol Monigold, Rebecca Ortiz and Valcia McDonald all of Texas, and Pamela Rivas of California, thirteen grandchildren and numerous great grandchildren, a sister, Sandra Rixon and two nephews all of Vermont. She will be missed by all that were blessed to be touched by her life's journey. A private ceremony will take place at a later date in Taos, New Mexico.

In lieu of flowers the family asks that donations be made in remembrance of Audrey to Stray Hearts Animal Shelter of Taos, RO. Box 622, Taos, NM 87571 or online at www.strayhearts.org. Arrangements were made by Schmidt Funeral Home in Katy Texas. Edward (Ed) Adams, 60, of Santa Fe, New Mexico, died unexpectedly on September 26, 2012. Ed was born October 3, 1951 in Lake Tomahawk, Wisconsin.

He attended the University of Wisconsin at Madison and graduated with a degree in business administration. Ed relocated In Appreciation and by her brother James G. Murray, III. She leaves three nieces, five nephews and an enormous number of friends, particularly Heather Croome-Carroll and Diane Summers, who were so good to Mimi in her sickness as were so many others. A Funeral Mass will be celebrated by Father William Hart McNichols at San Francisco de Asis Church in Ranchos de Taos, NM on Thursday, October 11th at 11am.

Norbert Cisneros, 77, of Taos passed away on September 29, 2012. He is preceded in death by his parents, Bences Cisneros and Sarah Cordova, stepfather, Juan Cordova, in laws, Taffy and Cora Sandoval. He is survived by his wife, Gloria Cisneros, daughters, Franchesca Leyba (Patrick) of Santa Fe, Valerie Johnson (Kenneth) of Santa Fe, Gina Romero (Patrick Sanchez) of Penasco and granddaughter he helped raise, Samantha A. Romero of Albuquerque. He is also survived by grandchildren, Zachary and Anika Leyba, Seneca and Skye Johnson, great granddaughter, Aria Olivia Perea, sisters, Rosina Martinez, Erlinda Lovato, Belda Archuleta (Charles), Lorenza Garcia (Toby), Viola De Baca (Larry) and many other relatives and friends.

Rosary was recited on October 3, 2012 at Our Lady of Guadalupe Catholic church in Taos. Funeral mass will be held on Thursday, October 4, 2012 at 10:00 AM at Our Lady of Guadalupe Church. Interment will be held on Friday, October 5, 2012 at 9 AM at Santa Fe National Cemetery. Arrangements by Rivera Family Funeral Home. To share a memory, please visit our website at www.

riverafuneralhome.com Tommy Lee Holder, 79, of Albuquerque, formerly of Taos, passed away this past week. He was the son of Tom Holder and Roberta Moore. Survivors is his wife Rosalie, two daughters and two sons from his previous marriage (and their families). He was a State Police Captain and had many friends and old classmates here in Taos. His handshake and friendly smile will be missed.

He was laid to rest at the National Cemetery in Santa Fe, NM. French Mortuary made arrangements. Love, Ted and Dollie Mondragon, Taos, NM. Arturo W. Pacheco, 75, a resident of Penasco passed away on Sunday, September 23, 2012.

Arturo was a hard working man. He was a Veteran with the Marine Corps. Arturo also worked for the New Mexico State Penitentiary. He retired after 32 years from Los Alamos National Lab. Mr.

Pacheco loved his family dearly. He was fond of his daughter-in-law, Eva son-in-law, Pedro; he treated them like his own. He enjoyed spending time with his grandchildren. Arturo had a great sense of humor and made friends easily. He enjoyed being outdoors hunting and snowmobiling.

He will be dearly missed. Arturo was preceded in death by his wife, Lorraine R. Pacheco; parents, Silviano and Telesfora Pacheco; brother, Elmo Pacheco; father-in-law, Manuel Griego; sister-in-law, Jane Pacheco; brothers-in-law: Isaac Griego, Manuel Griego Donald Velarde and Donald Chase; niece, Arianna Rendon; nephew, Lawrence Velarde. Mr. Pacheco is survived by his daughter, Angela M.

Martinez and husband Pedro of Rio Luci'o, NM; son, Edward Pacheco and wife Eva of Penasco, NM; brother, Floyd Pacheco of Santa Fe; sister, Cordelia Chase of Denver, CO; brother, Rudy Pacheco and wife Gloria of Rio Luci'o; mother-in-law, Eleanor Griego of Dixon, NM; sisters-in-law, Dorcas Velarde of Dixon, NM, Gladys Saldana and husband Hector of Alamogordo, NM, Evila Rendon and husband David of Dixon, NM; granddaughter, Michelle Martinez of Rib Luci'o, NM; grandsons: Matthew Martinez of Rio Luci'o, Adam Pacheco and fiance Robin of Penasco, Jeffrey and Isaac Pacheco of Penasco, NM; numerous other loving relatives friends. A rosary will be recited on Tuesday October 2, 2012 at 7:00 p.m. at the San Antonio de Padua Catholic Church in Penasco. Memorial mass will be celebrated Wednesday October 3, 2012 at 10:00 a.m. also at the San Antonio de Padua Catholic Church in Penasco.

Burial to follow at 2:15 p.m. at the Santa Fe National Cemetery. The family of Arturo W. Pacheco has entrusted the care of their loved one to DeVargas Funeral Home Crematory of the Espanola Valley. 505-747-7477 or www.devargasfuneral.com to Minneapolis, MN, then moved to southern California in 1984, and Taos, NM in 1995.

Ed was a residential real estate appraiser in Taos, New Mexico for 17 years before moving to Santa Fe in July, 2012 to pursue his MAI in commercial appraising with Hippauf and Associates. Ed had many hobbies including motorcycles, bicycle and mountain bike riding, and skiing which he shared with many local friends in the Taos and Santa Fe areas. He was a cherished brother, father, and friend who will be missed by everyone who knew him. He is survived by his sisters Carol Hoffman of Arizona and Connie Langren of Wsconsin, daughter Rachel Dalthorp of Minnesota, and son Christopher Shaw of Wisconsin. George Espinoza, 89, of Taos passed away on September 26, 2012.

Arrangements by Rivera Family Funeral Home. www.riverafuneralhome.com Jomae Matheny Crawford, 67, a resident of Espanola, NM passed away peacefully on September 25, 2012. She was born on November 11, 1944 in Lubbock, TX and married David Crawford in 1963 in Taos, NM. Jomae is preceded in death by her father, Vernon Matheny and mother, Leota Matheny. She is survived by her sons: Jeffrey Crawford and Matthew Crawford, sister, Judy Darr, grandsons: Samuel and Jackson and granddaughters: Arielle and Baily.

"Rest in Peace Mom; We Love You." No public services were held and the family would like to thank everyone for their kind words and support during this difficult time. Arrangements by Rivera Family Funeral Home (505) 753-2288. To share a memory, visit our website at www.riverafuneralhome.com Martha A. Vigil, 64, of Los Cordovas passed away September 26, 2012. She is preceded in death by her parents, Silviano and Adelia Trujillo, infant brothers, Phillip and Isaac Trujillo, infant sister, Fabie and in-laws, Felix and Eloisa Vigil.

She is survived by her husband, Valentin F. Vigil, daughters, Leslie Vigil and Vanessa Martinez (Johnny), grandchildren, Sonya Torres, Johnny Jr. and Justin Martinez, special nephew, Johnny Trujillo, aunts, Berna Ortiz (Cici), Tess Ortiz, Felicia Cardenas (Richard), Mandy Mascarenas (Fabian), uncles, Max Ortiz, Johnny Ortiz (Wendy), Tony Concha (Delilah), along with several cousins, great aunts and great uncles. Funeral service was held on September 29, 2012 at Our Lady of Guadalupe Catholic Church. Interment was held at the Pacheco Cemetery.

Arrangements by Rivera Family Funeral Home. To share a memory, please visit our website at www. riverafuneralhome.com Mimi Murray Meriwether died on September 28th, after a very long struggle with cancer. Born in Pittsburg, PA in 1955, Mimi's early schooling was at The Trinita dei Monti in Rome, Italy, where her family resided for a number of years while her father pursued business interests in Europe. Returning to the United States, her family settled in Pebble Beach, California in 1966.

Mimi entered Santa Catalina School in Monterey, and remained there until completing her high school years. After her freshman year at Santa Clara University, Mimi transferred to Georgetown University, where she graduated in 1977 Mimi's marriage to John Meriwether brought her to New York City living and then to their home in North Salem, NY. In later years Mimi found great serenity in her cherished Taos, New Mexico. Mimi was beloved by friends beyond number. The charity in her heart was unrestrained, and often found exercise in her generosity to friends in need.

The parade of visitors to the hospital from near, far and very far was remarkable. How she was loved! Mimi was a profoundly spiritual person whose virtue was evident to all who knew her. Many times she traveled to Medjugorje, a place of pilgrimage in the former Yugoslavia, where she often brought friends as her guests. From childhood, Mimi loved horses, and she became a very accomplished competitive horsewoman. She achieved international success in the demanding sport of three day eventing, which has been likened to competing in a triathlon.

Arrestingly courageous in coping with her illness, Mimi was small of frame and had an extraordinary sweetness and magical delicacy that captivated all who had the great grace of knowing her. Mimi's parents, Mr. and Mrs. James G. Murray, Jr.

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